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Thanks to all the properties in Jackson County, Missouri, being re-appraised without anyone actually viewing them, and our property value being lowered 19 percent because of the part of town we’re in, we’ve had to give up on our idea of refinancing to a lower rate. According to the County, our house is now worth $4,000 less than the mortgage owed against it. People closer to Kansas City fared far worse, with inner-city and surrounding inner-core area values dipping by 26 percent.

It’s really not fair. We have a nice house and excellent credit, but we cannot even refinance the loan we have without then paying PMI.

We bought the house twelve years ago for $16K more than it’s worth now. You tell me that’s not totally depressing.

I told the Home Depot guy about it and I ranted a little about how every repair we’d ever made was of no benefit and asked if anyone else was more reluctant to fix up their houses, and he started crying.

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I'd like to offer something that I've given up because of the recession: smelling good.

Last year my job as a substitute teacher was cut, and I was unable to bridge the short job gap between July and our little financial Y2K. I quickly found myself unemployed and down to my last spritz of Chanel's Allure for men. This was bad news, because Allure is my scent. It gets oohs and ahhs of approval when I hug women. My leather jacket absorbs it in winter, creating a heavenly hybrid of masculine woodsy-ness. It's an essential piece of my everyday identity. Doing without it has been very, well, depressing.

The story behind this goes back to my days as a high school student in the late '90s. My French teacher was a wealthy, retired school superintendent who prided himself on his ability to impress his male (and some female) students with his fancy sports cars, tailored suits, and pleasantly distinctive scent, which he quietly revealed to be Allure. This man would lecture us on the importance of hard work. Unlike other teachers who touted a good work ethic, but somehow always seemed cornered and a little demeaned by their own career paths, our French teacher practiced what he preached, and upheld his lifestyle with an appealing philosophy. According to him, hard work was useless if one didn't reap its rewards. A bonus wasn't money. A bonus was a new suit, a down payment on a fast car, which set a man apart from his Toyota Tercel-driving brethren. He was the personification of my teenage notion that hard work yielded high dividends and the good life.

That was back in 2000, and throughout the decade I've steadily held various jobs. I was a coffee barista, a janitor, a sales clerk at an art store, a camp counselor, and an English teacher in Prague before settling into dual positions as an in-house substitute and an adult education teacher at public schools in the decrepit coastal city of Bridgeport, Conn. All of these jobs afforded me one simple pleasure—Chanel's Allure, regularly purchased as homage to someone I looked up to in my formative years, and part of an arsenal regularly deployed in my pursuit of Connecticut women. But when the Great De—I mean Recession hit last fall, I realized my job search would far outlast its normal gestation period. It immediately became apparent that I couldn't spend on the little luxuries I'd grown used to. No more designer jeans, new sneakers, and worst of all, no more Allure.

I entered a smell-cession. Naturally, I tried to find cheap alternatives to a first-rate eau de toilette. Royal Copenhagen seemed to get decent reviews, and in desperation I did something I've never done before—purchased cologne online without smelling it first. I guess I was drawn in by the fresh blue of the bottle, and the glitzy name. Big mistake. Upon its arrival I found that Royal Copenhagen's scent is inspired by the odor of stale potpourri, combined with an indescribable something that only a Danish hooker would wear. I walked around smelling like sweet death. I could only get through a tenth of the bottle before I gave it to a friend. Actually, a former friend. Needless to say, we haven't spoken since.

Then I tried Jovan Musk, which retails for about $10 at CVS. I'd somehow gotten the impression that Jovan was a "throwback" scent that had been forgotten when the inflationary '70s merged with the quasi-sophisticated black-and-white TV commercial world of the Obsession '80s and Hilfiger '90s. Its unpretentious packaging and brand-name familiarity lent it an aura of being a good deal, and acceptable recession-wear. This time I gave it a few sniffs on my skin before putting my good money down. Jovan hasn't offended me like R. Copenhagen did, but for some reason I'm embarrassed to wear it. I walk around wondering if the faintly putrid scent of alcohol-soaked sunflowers is acting as a pheromone booster, or just repelling everyone within ten feet of me. I've had no trouble getting to the head of the line at the supermarket since I started wearing Jovan Musk. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing, so I've limited my usage to days when I'm mostly outdoors. At least then this dinosaur of an aroma can mingle harmlessly with the other damp smells of rural Connecticut.

I've come to realize that the stark decline in compliments on how I smell is directly related to this economic downturn, and the sacrifice I've made. Aramis, Chaps, Old Spice, Aqua-Velva—none of them achieve the ephemeral freshness of masterful cologne. Recently, I landed a part-time job at a local university. When my coffers are full again, my first order of business will be to replenish my stock in Allure. I look forward to the day when I can turn my bonus into the familiar heft of Chanel's 3.4-oz little brown box. It'll be nice to smell good again.

Until then, I'm stuck in the olfactory equivalent of a bread line.

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The recession started for me last year, when I got "fired" from the best paying job I had ever had. I am a Veterinary Technician, so even very good pay is relative—50K a year still doesn't buy a house in the SF Bay Area. I found a new job fairly quickly—I have lots of experience and there are always more jobs than employees in my field—but I am making 10K a year less now. Plus, I have a longer commute, so my gas costs are higher.

More directly, I also breed and show Japanese Bobtail cats. Or, at least I used to. I really cannot afford to show anymore, and I made a decision not to have any litters this year because buying a cat is probably among the ultimate in luxury spending, and I was worried I wouldn't be able to place the kittens. Since I always operate my hobby in the red (costs are *always* higher then income—even an IRS agent told me I shouldn't bother trying to claim anything, because I didn't qualify as a business), I have had to make the decision to stop the very thing I love doing most, and have done for the last 20 years. I have realized that the majority of my friends were made through the Cat Fancy, and so do feel cut off. Luckily, I have more time now for my boyfriend and am trying to see staying home on weekends and just relaxing (and trying not to spend money) as a good thing and not a bad one. I am hoping that things change soon. If they don't, then I'm never going to breed or show again...

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I gave up my job early last summer to spend time caring for a terminally ill parent, thinking that when it was over, I can easily find another job. No regrets on leaving my job for my parents. When it "was over" the economy tanked. I prepared to be unemployed until January, and it was then I realized how competitive it is out there and how tough as an older worker (late 40's) the task before me is.

Two months ago I gave up my absolute favorite car (and cried) to pay my mortgage. This after giving up and selling other items to pay my mortgage previously. The car sale allowed yet one more payment to be made on my home. In this economic time, it is about NEED, not WANT. I WANTED to keep my car of 14 years, but I NEEDED to keep my home. I sure wanted other items I gave up, but I didn't NEED them.

I gave up my red nail polish, coffee, fast food, hair appointments, fitness membership—Yes, I want all these but don't need them.

I gave up on Social Security benefits when I'm eligible since my annual statement/estimate actually read that my benefits paid WILL be 70 percent of the actual earned entitlement. And after 2037, nearly insolvent.

You hear a lot about families with kids, yet I assure you many are like me. Almost homeless, single, older, 401K virtually non-existent and losing job opportunities to those in their 30's.

Apparently I gave up a lot of friends, their choice, as being unemployed. One friend with whom I had been very close actually came out and confessed, "....I feel awful talking to you knowing you're not getting work and can't bring myself to ask how it's going." REALITY IS THIS: We are being treated as terminally ill people by some who hold the attitude that there is nothing they can do to help, so they stop contact and think someone else will help. Ugly but true. But they CAN help by talking to us. We are still the same as ever, just not so financially privileged as before.

I personally remain very optimistic about my future and I know that if I cannot find the opportunity, I have to create it for myself. I'm healthy, creative, terribly realistic and have not asked for money. I don't see my enthusiasm in a lot of other similarly situated folks. Wake up everyone!!! The real damage done to those people isn't lack of money. It's the utter lack of respect and disregard displayed by those still working to those who aren't, including by family members. This is so prevalent, that I proactively visit with people in my situation and help ensure they do not engage in a pity party. This is such a large scale issue that I see the economic boom of the future as this: counseling service providers will not be able to handle the number of Americans in need of their services.

You next question should be "What won't you give up?" For me, I won't give up my drive, passion to succeed, confidence, my house and my clear nail polish. I can easily live on oatmeal and bananas until the next job is secured. Life is good.

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Due to this recession, I've had to give up my weekly bottle(s) of wine and eating whatever I had a hankering for at the time, i.e, Chipotle, Wendy's, Chinese, pizza, sushi, etc. Just recently, I was met with the difficult decision in buying a pack of Oreos or to ignore such cravings and save money. (I had the hubby buy a snack pack, which is cheaper than buying a family size pack---problem solved). Needless to say, there are some positives with being on a super tight budget:

1. I'm probably a little healthier (minus the benefits from my daily glass of red wine)

2. Maybe a little slimmer (although I'm petite/average for my height)

3. Have learned to cook several new meals to substitute/satisfy those cravings

4. And a stronger will power to say, "No" to wants

Although it's uncomfortable, my goods still outweigh my bads, and will only cause me to appreciate wine and fast food even more.

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I left my financial services job to go back to school, just before the shit hit the proverbial fan. I took student loans, incurred credit card debt and raided my retirement fund to pay for a degree that is now virtually useless. I'm working part-time at an after school program for teenagers, making $12 an hour. I couldn't get a job in my old industry even if I wanted to, which I most certainly do not.

What did I give up that mattered most? I gave up the illusion of security. I gave up feeling that I knew what the future held. I gave up the sense that I knew what the hell I was doing. Those things USED to matter most to me. I traded those things for a renewed ability to lean into each day and accept that I will probably be able to handle whatever surprises lie in store. I just turned 50 and I have never been happier in my life.

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The recession hit me pretty hard for a couple of reasons. One, it happened right about the time of my divorce. Now I am raising a six-year-old daughter and making a mortgage payment on my public school teacher's salary (we have joint custody). Two, my best friend (whom my daughter thinks of like an uncle) lost his job as a designer/manager, his house, basically everything. So he lives with us now. He is only marginally employed so he can't contribute much to the household budget.

I've given up on small things that I used to take for granted: eating out, buying records, going to the coffee shop, basically anything that involves spending money that is not necessary except my Netflix and eMusic accounts (these keep me sane and amused). I'm now drinking Pabst, not because it's hip but dirt cheap. I have hellish student loan debt for a BA and MA, a mortgage that I am a perpetually a month behind on, an auto loan, and one credit card that I can't get paid off. I'm not able to save anything for my daughter or for myself.

There is a bright side though. I have learned to cook a lot of meals I never would have considered before, from scratch (it's so much cheaper and tastier). We have turned my front yard into a victory garden. I seem to be more creative or experimental as an artist now for some reason, too.

It's easy to get depressed about it all and believe me it comes and goes. It's also hard, like the article stated, to complain or vent because my friend lost everything. So I question my moodiness and frustration and I feel like I can't really talk to him about it because he was hit so hard. It's a strange time for sure. Hopefully we will learn our lesson from this and stick to the new frugality we are engaged in. We can't afford not to.

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First I gave up cable TV, internet and a fancy apartment in an upscale neighborhood, then just before Christmas I gave up weekends and I haven’t had one since. When they cut overtime at my current job, I took a second job in order to keep my head above water. I work 40-43 hours a week at my day job and an additional 25-30 hours at my second workplace. I have only had two actual days off since Christmas Day. Needless to say my social life is essentially non-existent, if and when I do go out it is usually with a few people from my retail job. I miss sleeping in on Saturdays and not having to have every second scheduled, but if it means I can get through this recession without moving back in with my parents or losing my car, then I suppose I can handle it. I have lost several friends because of my lack of availability and I don’t always think they understand that if I didn’t have to work two jobs I most certainly wouldn’t, but I have met some great new people at the bookstore where I work. In addition I am lucky because I happen to really enjoy my second job and worse comes to worst I always have one job if I were to lose the other. In the future when things (hopefully) improve, I know I will never take my weekends for granted again!!

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I do understand the complications and devastations that many people are going through right now, although it has not affected my family or me...yet. But I do have a positive note to report! I'm a university student, and it seems that my generation is increasingly more concerned about protecting the environment than those who are possibly being affected most, the middle-aged working class age.

I think that the benefit of the recession may be that it is forcing people to cut back on frivolous things, on things that are bad for them and the environment. I have heard stories of families saving money by selling their vehicles and opting for public transit...where I live, plastic grocery bags now cost 5 cents extra, which makes bringing a reusable bag more of a money saving motivation. I don't wish to downplay the hard times that people are going through, but I do want to stress that a change in what people are used to doing might be a good thing for a lot of people, and force them to look at how they're living, and if there are new cost-efficient (and probably greener) ways!

Tags: environmental concerns, green, recession, recession sacrifices